Busting A Myth & A ‘Vulnerable’ Moment

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I believe there is a myth out there that holistic practitioners, mindset coaches, mentors etc and all in the “personal development” field are always positive and never have a bad day.

I have even heard one previous, very well-known personality, in the field of personal and spiritual development say that they gave it all up…because they felt they always had to be positive and happy and in the end they felt they were living a total lie…and so many things they had believed and taught for so long… was a sham.

WOW

Well, people are allowed to change their minds and careers and do whatever is right for them…but I was flabbergasted that this person had felt like this throughout their career and that they were holding themselves up to such a standard. Didn’t they know what it meant to be human.

You see, I have never thought this myself. Yes, when you want to help and teach people, there is a level of personal growth and development, knowledge and awareness, and yes….skills and techniques that you need to be proficient in to really help others. But people seem to mix this up with this idea of ‘perfection’. Well I have news for you….nobody is perfect.. and what does being perfect even mean really.

Over the last 2 days I have felt emotions arising within myself. Out of seemingly nowhere.. a few small eruptions of anger, highly irritated and then some more anger. Today I had a few moments of the same…alongside feelings of being Low, not worthy, not good enough…. Asking myself, What am I doing, Whats the point of me doing anything I do, Am I really helping anyone?

You see, I have been working on myself….FOR YEARS!!!!!!

And I am STILL an ongoing work in progress.

Am I perfect?

Absolutely not.

Have I made changes in my life, my mindset over the years?

Absolutely YES

Have I helped people?

Absolutely YES

So why do these thoughts come and these feelings?

There are many reasons.

What I would say is..

The difference between me as I am now, with all the skills, knowledge and life experiences, personal growth and awareness I have….

And the person I used to be…many years ago…that is pretty much unrecognizable…

Is the fact that I am AWARE of whats happening,

I KNOW that is is temporary.

I KNOW these thoughts and feelings are not permanent…just transient thoughts like the clouds in the sky.

I have the knowledge, skills and awareness to do what I need to do to change my thoughts and to feel better.

This starts with acknowledging how I feel and OWNING it.

Often these things happen before moments of change, sometimes when there is stress and worry, times when things aren’t going exactly as I want them to in any given moment…and sometimes…. They are NOT EVEN MINE…YES…

Read that again 🙂

I only realised late in the day, that today marked the anniversary of us shutting down last March.

(I dont watch the news)

One of the things I have learned over the years is that I am sensitive to ENERGY.

What does that mean?

It means that I can often sense things about people and situations without knowing how or why.

It means I can think something, feel something…

and what Im thinking and feeling may NOT even BELONG to ME.

I often pick up on the energy of people I am around,

crowds in shops or public spaces and also the general energy that seems to be potent, on any given day.

As you can imagine this is great when the energy is positive and uplifting and energised… however the collective energy I feel can also be the opposite… low mood, frustration, anger, fear etc.

Its been a strange year …some people have actually enjoyed it …some have had their worst year ever and others fall anywhere in between.

Yesterday and today I sensed I was picking up on some of …what I would call… the Collective Energy “out there” 😊

Luckily my skills, awareness and experience means I can process all that I am thinking and feeling and then do what I need to do to let it go.

This included

1. Being aware of what I was feeling and thinking

2. Acknowledging those thoughts and feelings…. Simply stating…I am feeling angry… and of course speaking sarcastically to the 2 drivers …who…well…lets just say…were not my favourite people today LoL.

3. I walked outside and gazed at the sky and the magical sunset and basked in mother nature.

4 Sat in silence for a little while and then meditated.

5. Went back outside to gaze at nature and revel in the colours and beauty of he setting sun

These small, simple steps brought me back to myself, the low mood and negative thinking simply disappeared. I got an inspired idea on something I was working on regarding my business and came out of my meditation feeling positive, motivated and energised.

The lesson: It doesn’t matter who you are or how successful in any given area of life.

You are human. You are allowed to feel what you feel and think what you think, in fact you MUST do this in order to process whatever is going on with you and to let these moments pass.

Next time you are feeling low, negative or filled with self doubt, maybe follow ALL or even one of these steps.

And just In case you need to hear this

I believe in you

Published by deborahking bee empowered

Originally hailing from County Armagh, Northern Ireland, I spent a LOT of my life trying to figure out “what I wanted to be when I grew up”. I consequently moved from job to job, never being satisfied or happy and always thinking there had to be some kind of work that would feed my soul and give me true job satisfaction. Having worked at everything from Factory Worker, Petrol Station Attendant, Cleaner, Call Centre advisor, Training & Communications supervisor in a large retail chain, Activity Manager to 22 international interns in Orlando, Florida, and even a stint as a Public Servant, my attendance at a holistic health & wellbeing fair would be the catalyst for me to delve into the field of complementary and alternative therapies. Whilst at the fair, a chance meeting with 2 particular therapists, opened me up to the idea that I may in fact, have been living with depression. Although I dismissed this idea initially as nonsense, in time I came to the realisation that this was indeed true and that I had probably been living with this condition for well over 15 years. As a result of the impact from these therapists I went on to train in various complementary modalities. A Reiki & Seichem Master Trainer, Personal Empowerment & Transformation Coach, Transformational Speaker, Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming & Hypnosis, and certified in the Law of Attraction, I credit the world of Holistic health & Wellbeing, and understanding the connection between Mind, Body & Soul, in helping me move from a place of depression to empowerment. My name Deborah means “BEE” in Hebrew and coincidentally I believe that the humble bumble bee has a lot to teach us about personal empowerment. We have all heard the story that, for a long time, nobody could figure out how the bumblebee could fly. Given their wingspan and body weight, and using a specific type of aerodynamic theory, it was considered impossible. Luckily the bumblebee wasn’t aware of this “impossibility” and happily flew anyway. Many will say this is a myth but regardless of that, this simple story highlights the nature of what it means to be empowered – you don’t have to have everything figured out logically in order to do what you want to do or be who you want to be. When we are our true selves and act in accordance with our true nature, and when we refuse to accept other peoples limiting beliefs about us we are free to live a life without limits. As a result of my own life journey and subsequent transformation, I am passionate about helping others to remember that, they too, have all the resources within themselves to transform themselves and live their most empowered life. As a result of working with me, either one to one or in groups, attending my workshops and hearing me speak, people feel listened to, challenged and empowered to take ownership of their mindset, break through their limiting beliefs, hidden subconscious fears & emotions and become their most empowered self, thereby, transforming themselves and their lives for the better. “Who Would You BE… If You Were ALL That YOU ARE” If you would like to work with me or find out more about what I do, you can connect with me as follows. SOCIAL MEDIA Links To find out more about Deborah connect with her on https://www.facebook.com/DeborahKing.BeeEmpowered/ Insta: deborahkingbeeempowered website / Blog: https://deborah-king.com Linked in: Deborah King

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